Bump `SetField` compat

[SamuelBrand1]

I've noticed on a project that myself and @seabbs are benchmarking with BenchmarkCI https://github.com/CDCgov/Rt-without-renewal/tree/main/benchmark that I can't add OrdinaryDiffEq because of incompatibility between SetField version used here and the compat requirements of DiffEqBase.

This PR:

• Bumps the SetField compat requirements for BenchmarkCI.
• updates CompatHelper CI to get version 3 rather than 2
• updates the test suite to [1, 1.10, nightly] to reflect that julia-1.10 is the new LTS version.