Trying to use modules/apps across UWP/WinAppSDK should provide a meaningful error message

[asklar]

UWP modules will likely not work in WinAppSDK apps and vice versa. We should have a sane experience here rather than let things fail at build or runtime. This includes identifying whether a module/app is using winui3, as well as probably autolinking changes to diagnose this as early as possible.

[agniuks]

Depends on https://github.com/microsoft/react-native-windows/issues/9136