use getsockopt to check connection state after poll indicate writable

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[mckelvin]

Could you add more details on why we need this? It'd would best if you could add a test case or a piece of POC code to reproduce the issue you want to fix.

[MOON-CLJ]

@mckelvin this pr contains two points，

1，as suggestion by https://man.openbsd.org/connect.2 ，also see the https://man.openbsd.org/connect.2#EXAMPLES 。 add getsockopt with option SO_ERROR after poll indicate ok to double check after connect。it's not easy to add a test。 2，again，add more log with connection's pointer address to expose connection's state。