[Bug] 5.x集群主从同步双写高可用时，grpc客户端收发消息失败

[YongXiaoo]

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Runtime platform environment

x86, centos, aarch64 GNU/Linux

RocketMQ version

5.x

JDK Version

jdk 1.8

Describe the Bug

5.x集群主从同步双写配置副本数，一主一从同步副本数为2，在主节点宕机后，消费消息提交ack失败；在从节点宕机后，发送3秒超时，消费消息提交ack失败；

Steps to Reproduce

1、5.x集群主从同步双写配置副本数，一主一从同步副本数为2 2、积压2W消息 3、启动消费者，关闭主节点或者从节点 4、只保留主节点发送消息

What Did You Expect to See?

1、关闭主节点或者从节点时，可以从从节点继续消费且正常提交位移 2、关闭从节点时，像remoting客户端一样，可以探测到从节点下线，不影响发送

What Did You See Instead?

1、关闭主节点或者从节点时，可以从从节点继续消费且正常提交位移 2、关闭从节点时，像remoting客户端一样，可以探测到从节点下线，不影响发送

Additional Context

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