[enhancement](memtracker) Add special counter for memtracker and fix thread create and destroy track

[xinyiZzz]

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #xxx

Problem summary

1. Add a special counter for memtracker, faster, but relaxed ordering and not accurate in real time
2. Track thread create and destroy memory, which was previously removed due to performance loss and added back

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• [ ] Has unit tests been added
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• [ ] Does it need to update dependencies
• [ ] Is this PR support rollback (If NO, please explain WHY)

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[xinyiZzz]

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TeamCity pipeline, clickbench performance test result: the sum of best hot time: 34.36 seconds stream load tsv: 471 seconds loaded 74807831229 Bytes, about 151 MB/s stream load json: 36 seconds loaded 2358488459 Bytes, about 62 MB/s stream load orc: 67 seconds loaded 1101869774 Bytes, about 15 MB/s stream load parquet: 28 seconds loaded 861443392 Bytes, about 29 MB/s https://doris-community-test-1308700295.cos.ap-hongkong.myqcloud.com/tmp/20230301123132_clickbench_pr_106481.html