adding timeouts and splitting logic to attachHandlers

[cviecco]

This request is about preparing the eventmond code to support TLS. To do so this patch does 2 things:

1. Splits the adding of the eventmond paths to the default mux to separate public function in the API. (and also uses this split)
2. Explicitly creates a new server with the default server mux to enable reasonable timeouts on the connections. (these same timeouts will be used for the TLS version).